As far as food, what is free on board & what isn't? Will it be extremely obvious?
All food is free, except the supper club, and not all ships have a supper club. The specialty coffee and dessert shop is also not free however, you get free dessert at all your meals. Soda is not free, nor is any drinks, but ice tea, lemonade, and some juices are free.
What time should we get to port to board? Will we be able to board early & if so how early?
We always try to arrive about 1 hour before the embarking time on your paperwork. (around 11:00). Once the ship is cleared, they begin the boarding process. There will always be a "peak" time when everyone seems to arrive at the same time, but I have never encountered it and never took more than 30 minutes from the car boarding. I was in Port Carnival, Miami, and NYC.
What time should we expect to disembark? We will be having someone pick us up to bring us home (live about 1 1/2 hours from the dock) so what time should we tell them to be there?
If you are not in a rush, than plan on taking your time, eat breakfast, and have your ride arrive about 1 1/2 hours after your debarkation time at the ealiest. Your will be assigned a number and when you number is called, or "after" your number is called, you can leave. So if you have a smaller number, and you did not eat breakfast yet, than eat, and then leave....
What one thing is an absolute must pack?
Money for booze. An extension cord for charging your camera, and phone, and ipod, etc. Never enough outlets. Don't overpack.
Is my nervous energy going to go away anytime soon? Does anyone have suggestions for calming down & looking forward to the cruise instead of worrying about making sure we have everything & freaking out about every detail of my wardrobe?
All you need to bring, is your ID, passport, or birth certificate, and paperwork. Everything else that you forget, will be minor.